Resistance Vs. Trust
Our capacity for change, whether it be within ourselves or change in our world, is far greater than we realize. Dr. David Hawkins, in his book, Power vs. Force, illustrates the profound influence our thoughts and state of mind have on ourselves and others. He defines power as energizing and life supporting. In contrast, force generates resistance, conflict and depletes energy. Power makes us strong, force makes us weak. Love, integrity and empathy empower us; hatred, shame and judgement weaken us.
Have you ever tried to embark on a new habit, exercise plan/schedule or routine, maybe a different way of eating….and somewhere inside of you, just didn’t “feel” quite right, or you felt miserable, but you did it anyway (force)? How long did that last? Sometimes change by force sticks, and for many others, change set by “force” without real alignment with your true self, just doesn’t last.
So often, we choose to resist allowing ourselves to listen to our bodies, to listen to what we really want, to allow for anything, other than what we think we SHOULD be doing, eating, being etc. Many of my clients often say things like “I need someone to kick my tail”, “I need to be pushed to do things”, “I need someone to slap my hand when I’m grabbing for something”, “I need to force myself to exercise, or to eat a certain thing that is considered “healthy” (even though I don’t enjoy it) etc. All of this leads to a continued path to distrust ourselves, our bodies, our own desires, our own ability to care for ourselves in the unique way we each wish to.
There is such a disconnect to listening to our bodies and ourselves as we are bombarded by messaging of what media, or other people of influence say is best for us. We start to separate our body from ourselves, as something we need to control, something that doesn’t “listen” to what we are imposing on it, something that we hate or that hates us simply because it feels sick all the time, or doesn’t lose weight fast enough or at all or doesn’t look a particular way (all messages that your body needs some attention, love and acceptance)…..
All of this negative messaging simply disempowers us. But when we choose to empower ourselves (or rather, step into self- love, personal integrity, honesty and acceptance, without judgement), greater things tend to happen. Answers we are looking for present, a way of obtaining a goal that is more congruent to our true selves unfolds, allowing true lasting change to happen.
Next month we’ll look at how you can start trusting your body more, with a three-part article. And in September, I’ll be offering a class based on some of the steps and principles that will be discussed over the next month. Find out more details below to sign-up!
But until then, be mindful of commitments you make, choices you choose and all the things you say “yes” to. Tune in to your body and inner knowing a little more, and see what sort of sensation you receive. Is it one of joy and expansion or did that “yes” response come with a feeling of tightness in your upper stomach area or heart space? Did it leave you more energized or did it leave you only relieved that the task is checked off the list. Hopefully, you’ll begin to hear your bodies cues more, and make choices based less on should a
I know many of you may ask, what does this have to do with my nutrition? And the answer is, EVERYTHING! How we choose to fuel ourselves and care for ourselves reflects how we perceive other areas of our lives as well as life itself. It can show a lot about your relationship with food and yourself in general. Pay attention to the above suggestions for the month and see how your “yes’s” and “No’s” truly feel to you. Remind yourself that you have choice and therefore power, to choose differently!
If you wish to explore a more personalized approach to your nutrition, click the link below and lets explore what that could look like for you!
Trusting Your Body! This is a live virtual event – it will be recorded, you do not need to attend to reap all the benefits. We’ll break down the 7 steps, plus some extras. This is where you will learn to connect, listen in and start trusting your body. This is a 4-session course. Each week, we’ll have specific assignments and exercises to help you tune in to this lifelong practice. Help yourself to start working with your body versus against. Develop the most important partnership in your life: You and your body!
Beginning September 13th – Oct 4th!
Registered Dietitian Nutritionist
Nicole is recognized state-wide and nationally as a Registered Dietitian and is also a Certified dietitian through the state of Wisconsin. She is also a Board Certified Sports Dietitian and a Certified Personal Trainer and Physical Fitness Instructor.
Nicole’s areas of expertise include: Wellness and lifestyle coaching, weight management, behavior modification, eating disorders, vegetarian lifestyles, gluten-free living, sports nutrition, recipe and menu design and development.